Who came up with the idea of slogging your ass off in your 20s, 30s, and 40s (phew!), getting married and raising kids in between that and then retire at an age when the kids can take care of you! Yes, that seems like the most ‘normal’ thing to do for most people I know!
Why is marriage given such mammoth importance in anyone’s life?
Why can’t the family accept that the boyfriend and I can travel for a year even if we are not married?
Why can’t my sister get married without hassles if her elder sister is not married but living with her partner?
Why do friends who know we have been living together for 3+ years still ask when is the big-day? What difference does that day make in our lives? Other than give me more responsibilities which I would anyways shun!
Why is it that the UK Home Office is the only establishment that accepts unmarried partner as an equivalent of a married partner without asking me when we are getting married!
Why does the whole world conspire in making not-yet-moms think motherhood is the most enjoyable thing in the world, when I can never see parents of young kids have a peaceful night of sleep!) Is procreation still considered the most important reason for our existence?
Why does everyone think buying a house is the ultimate goal in everyone’s career (and repay the mortgage for the rest of your working life!) Why is it not considered right if someone never buys a house and uses the money earned to travel around the world? Who invented the word ‘settled’?
Why can’t we lead a life where we get married when and where we feel like (it could be one sunny Sunday morning in London or in one of the Goan shacks many years down the line!), decide we never want to have kids (maybe we do, maybe we don’t), take a break from work without any responsibilities bothering us, enjoy life travelling the world with the money we have at that moment of time, come back and start afresh – not doing what we need to do but doing what we like to do.
Why is it that the above idea is considered a dream and not a reality? Why is it that a few people I know who have tried any parts of the above had to face humungous resistance – mostly from the immediate family?
In the names of religion, society and family, have we given ourselves more restrictions than we need to?